Love Phobia

Would you like to have a relationship but do you find that your partner always withdraws? Do you keep falling in love with someone who is already taken? Or do you have the tendency to keep the other person at a distance, just as they are beginning to develop feelings for you? If you keep ending up in situations like this, you might recognise the dance of pursuit and withdrawal. You’re not the only one! The fundamental conflict between our need for intimacy and our need for freedom creates this game of pursuit and withdrawal, of attracting and repelling. It imprisons us in destructive dependency relationships. This book explains why people with fear of abandonment attract people with fear of commitment. With great clarity and openness Hannah Cuppen offers insight and shows which steps you can take towards greater self-esteem, self-love and connection. If you want to stop your ‘love-phobic’ dance and become available for love again, this book will show you the way.

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“Love Phobia is a much needed map, guiding the reader to the treasures of loving and being loved, free of fear and past patterns. If you find yourself running after people who not available and running away from those who are, this book can help. Cuppen offers the wisdom and tools to transform your romantic life and find the love you have been longing for.”

Jessica Graham

Auteur van Mindful & mind blowing seks

Love Phobia is a masterpiece! It is one of the most insightful and helpful books on love I have read. I recommend it to you wholeheartedly.

Robert Holden

Auteur van Loveability en Finding Love Everywhere

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We hope that Love Phobia will be read by many people. The best way to gain a place in the international market is by writing an English review!

What are we aiming for? We aim for the Goodreads Choice Awards 2021! Goodreads Choice Awards is a very important price in the English book world. A nominated title will be seen, read and criticized by thousands, even millions of people. It is the readers’ choice and thus a unique opportunity to become known as a Dutch author in the English-speaking world.

To be eligible for this award we need 5000 4/5 star ratings. We have until the end of the year for that, so your review is extremely valuable! By posting as many reviews as possible, we will stand out and hopefully for the winning title! With the aim to help as many people as possible in the awareness of Love Phobia! This is how you can help to promote Love Phobia:

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With great clarity, Hannah Cuppen in Love Phobia, dives deep into the reasons why people get into and stay in relationships that lack reciprocity, real intimacy and closeness, all the while giving hope and direction on how to enter relationships based on self-love and true connection. I gained invaluable insights from this book and highly recommend it.




Love Phobia helps you to overcome your fear of commitment and abandonment. If you want to stop your ‘love-phobic’ dance and become available for love again, this book will show you the way.

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Shipping cost Love Phobia (VAT included):
- The Netherlands € 6,10
- Europe € 10.95
- United Kingdom € 12,26
- United States € 15,97
- The rest of the world € 15,97

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